Indrie Matrie: DOES A MAN WHO CHEATS ON HIS WIFE REALLY LOVE HER ...

Indrie Matrie: DOES A MAN WHO CHEATS ON HIS WIFE REALLY LOVE HER ...: On the radio this morning, a topic came up on whether a man who cheats on his wife really love them? Both sides had valid points. ...

DOES A MAN WHO CHEATS ON HIS WIFE REALLY LOVE HER ?

On the radio this morning, a topic came up on whether a man who cheats on his wife really love them?

Both sides had valid points. Guys were saying sex outside the marriage is simply a physical thing, a release so to speak, nothing intimate about it, no emotional connection involved, as long as you hide it well, you should be okay.

Women were saying that if he truly loved his wife it just wouldn't happen period no matter the lust he felt, or the temptation thrown his way, for him to cheat on her meant he really didn't care.

My personal opinion is yes, a man can love his wife yet get pleased sexually elsewhere besides home. Love isn't the problem here, respect is. I feel that once you decide to propose and get married, you should understand the responsi-

bilities that come along with that, especially fighting temptation. You CHOSE to take your relationship to the next level, she said yes with full faith and trust in you, most women do take those vows seriously. 

Though to guys sex with some-one else may not mean anything, they love their spouse to death and the last thing they want is to lose their family, to the woman thats a pain thats very hard to take. You didn't respect her enough to avoid the one thing that is a sure relationship ender. 

Mind you, in most cases the women find out either by the mans actions, or someone else, the last thing you'd want is her finding out by someone else telling her or bringing it to her attention, now not only is she being
cheated on but also humiliated because others around her know but she doesn't. It's even worse when you have children because it shows lack of respect for your family life as a whole. It's like your saying you were willing to risk all of that just for a simple relief that you could have gotten at home.

Or even worse such as in the McNair case, the wife finding out AFTER he dies!!! How do you get through something like that?! You can't ask why, your hurt, angry, disappointed, here it is he's dead but your left with the questions not just from yourself but the kids and everyone else! How do you get through those emotions, anger, hate, love, hurt you name it! ...Wow I couldn't imagine.

I always tell people simply because you love someone is not enough of a reason to get married and start a family, both people have to be mentally and physically prepared for such an undertaking, it takes a great deal of mat urity, compromise and sacrifice. No relationship is easy but with the right amount of understanding and communication it can be made less hard.

Understand that issues that you had before marriage will not go away simply because your married, if your future husband is a party-er, flirt, etc, that will NOT go away with marriage. If your future wife is insecure, jealous etc...that will not go away with marriage. If two people are serious about making that step then certain things will start to wain before hand so that they can go into the relationship with a clear mind and work on it together. Unfortunately that rarely happens. I can't tell you how many weddings I've been too for friends, families and co workers where I'm saying to myself 'goodness these people should not begetting married!' But to each it's own, where the delusion that once you get married all problems stop come from is beyond me lolz.

So ladies I want to hear your take on this?

Guys I want to really hear your opinions as well.

In fact I want to hear how it would be taken if the shoe was on the other foot,

what would you do if you found out your wife whom never gave you an inkling of a clue as to her 'dipping' out on you, was cheating on you?

Would you accept the "it didn't mean anything" reasoning?

How would you take it if it came from your friends or peers?

Would you leave or would you stay?

If you stayed, how would it affect your trust and relationship as a whole, could you still look at her the same? 

sumber : Pooja Thakkar-dilsedesi

Indrie Matrie: Never Give Up!

Indrie Matrie: Never Give Up!: One day I decided to quit...   I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality. .. I wanted to quit my life.   I went to the woods to hav...

Never Give Up!

One day I decided to quit... 
I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality. ..
I wanted to quit my life. 
I went to the woods to have one last talk with God. 

'God', I asked, 'Can you give me one good reason not to quit?' 
His answer surprised me... 
'Look around', He said. 'Do you see the fern and the bamboo?' 'Yes', I replied. 
'When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds,
I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water.
The fern quickly grew from the earth. 
Its brilliant green covered the floor. 
Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo. 

In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. 
And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo', He said. 

'In year three, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. 

In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed.
I would not quit.' He said. 

'Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant. ..

But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. 
It had spent the five years growing roots.
Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. 
'I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.' 

He asked me.
'Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots'. 

'I would not quit on the bamboo.
I will never quit on you.' 
'Don't compare yourself to others.'

He said.
'The bamboo had a different Purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful.' 
'Your time will come',

God said to me. 'You will rise high' 
'How high should I rise?'  I asked. 
'How high will the bamboo rise?' He asked in return. 
'As high as it can?' I questioned. 
'Yes.'
He said,
'Give me glory by rising as high as you can.' 

I left the forest and brought back this story.
I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you. 

Never, Never, Never Give up. 

For Prayer is not an option but an opportunity. 
Don't tell the Lord how big the problem is, 
tell the problem how Great the Lord is! 

Heaven’s door opened this morning,
God asked me...
My CHILD... what can I do for you?'
and I said
'Protect and bless the one reading this message. 
God smiled and answered ...
'REQUEST GRANTED'

This message is now in your hands. 
What will YOU do with it?
send this to  people so they too will have their

lives in God's hands

 

Indrie Matrie: Which type of man your husband?

Indrie Matrie: Which type of man your husband?: Husbands used to be all the same. Not anymore, Rougedefines the new prototype husband. Find out which one works for you! The Fatherly...

Which type of man your husband?

Husbands used to be all the same. Not anymore, Rougedefines the new prototype husband. Find out which one works for you!

The Fatherly Husband:

This old almost father-like husband is favourite amongst young girls who want nothing but money. He’s a billionaire, multi-married and is prone to heart attacks! A new young wife immediately puts the grandfather hubby on a diet. There’ll be dramatic weight loss, booze-free, no smoking and coloured hair days. The idea is to keep him fit until he signs everything to his dear wife. Remember, Anna Nicole Smith, 26 and how she married billionaire J. Howard Marshall, 89. Sometimes money takes over love issues!

The Gay Husband:

He is a husband, just for the namesake. The fact that he seems to have gay male friends could be hint. Gay husband is a pain as his true love and feelings is for someone of same sex. Remember the movie, Brokeback Mountain. The man-on-man stories are really catching up. So, ladies better be careful.

The Super-Ugly, Rich Husband:

He’s got everything except the looks. He has the ego of 10 men; he thinks he is God, pays for everyone and everything. Cherry on the top, he will have the most beautiful woman by his side. When you see this couple in a party, the first things that come to your mind are ‘How could she?’ or ‘Does she really have sex with him?’. This husband is surviving because he’s got money everywhere. He’ll pamper her with diamonds, new houses and she’ll stick to him till his money disappears.

The Greedy Husband:

He is too lazy to work and earn huge bucks. The easy way out is to hunt out for a multi-millionaire girl irrespective of her looks. All he wants is a BMW, the wine, cigars, penthouse, club memberships - but he’s not prepared to work hard for them. Fortune-hunting husband is basically a charming, lazy guy.

The Flirty Husband:

He has a nice wife but still he is greedy and loves to be surrounded by other beauties too. He can’t help groping his way through his wife’s friends, female coworkers, lady doctors -- basically any female with good looks. He won’t ever miss a chance of dropping or picking wife’s cousins or female friends to the airport or passing comments like ‘Sorry, but I can’t stop staring at your deep brown eyes’. He’s the sort of man that is incapable of being faithful. No love is true love for him; he can slip for any attractive girl.

The Always Penniless Husband:

The relationship starts off with thousand promises but soon all the charm fades away. He is unemployable, sitting at home eating and watching football. His parents thought he will realize his responsibilities after marriage, but no gain. The wife takes nearly no maternity leave and seems to be supporting her entire household on her salary alone. Truly, this husband is a life sentence of misery.

The Friendly Hubby:

He’s not a bad husband but his life is dedicated to his own social advancement. He cares too much about the parties, hanging with friends, night outs, travelling, long drives with his buddies. He is so very excited about these things, that he won’t even mind taking over his wife’s social life. He doesn’t believe in staying at home, he wants to have blast every night. This kind of husband can drive his wife to social madness.

The Almost Perfect Husband:

On the face, he appears to be a dream husband but in reality he is too irritating. He’s attentive, caring, loving, polite, well-dressed but always hovering near his wife, interrupting when she’s on phone, checking how much she’s been eating, drinking and spending. He’s just too much to handle. He turns up everywhere his wife goes at lunches, parties and he secretly hates her to have any friends and forbids her to even work. He basically shows he is a gem of a husband but he is a real pain. He looks like a perfect guy but he ain’t. 



 

Indrie Matrie: The Brick

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