Indrie Matrie: SEX : WHEN HE DOESN'T WANT IT

Indrie Matrie: SEX : WHEN HE DOESN'T WANT IT: Men may think of sex every six seconds but there are also times when they avoid having it MEDICATIONS   Certain med...

SEX : WHEN HE DOESN'T WANT IT

Men may think of sex every six seconds but there are also times when they avoid having it

MEDICATIONS 


Certain medicines may have many side effects on the body; some of them often have a direct impact on the man’s libido levels. The drugs affect the chemical reactions in the brain and cause loss of interest in sex. Medications that ought to deal with depression and diabetes often lead to loss of sexual desire. A way out of the situation is to consult your doctor to know if an alternate medication is possible, that wouldn’t cause as much harm to one’s libido level. 


LACK OF SLEEP 


Lack of sleep not only affects one’s thinking capacity and performance levels in office, but also causes a backlash in one’s sex life. When the daily sleep requirements aren’t met, the body experiences extreme fatigue and a good night’s sleep seems far more tempting as compared to having sex. 


HORMONAL LEVELS 


A man's testosterone level has a direct impact on his libido level. And if your partner has been showing no interest in sex, chances are it’s due to low levels of testosterone hormone. Low testosterone level is not very common among men. However, it can be a potent reason why your man might be losing interest in sex. Age is also an important factor when we speak of low testosterone levels. For example, a middleaged man might be facing low testosterone levels owing to male menopause. 


IDENTITY ISSUES 


Men often feel uncertain about their role in society due to identity issues that come up in their professional and personal life. It can be issues such as dealing with a difficult boss or death of an important family member. Going through a phase of divorce also hampers one’s belief in relationships and thereby affects the man’s desire in bed. 


STRESS 


Stress has become synonymous with today’s lifestyle. Be it the stress levels at work or even the need to multitask at every step. While the sources are many, a common impact of this is loss of desire. It is important for men going through such high stress levels to identify the various sources contributing to it and deal with them one at a time. 


SPATS WITH MATE 


In a relationship, the man and woman may have different notions of pleasure and the degree to which it is okay to experiment. Very often, the man may want to do something that the woman is not quite comfortable with or even vice versa. Alternatively, the partners may have varied notions when it comes to things like frequency and intimacy in their relationship. Such disagreements lead to strained relationships and depression that has a direct impact on the man’s libido levels. While some may purposely abstain from sex to push their point of view, others may genuinely lose interest. 


SEXUAL DIFFICULTIES 


The man may be facing issues like Erectile Dysfunction (ED) or may also be suffering from premature ejaculation, leaving the partner dissatisfied. A few instances of ‘poor performance’ affects their self-esteem and it causes added pressure the next time they get into the act. With such performance expectations, loss of desire is inevitable. 

The reasons may be purely organic or psychological and it is important to tackle it accordingly. For example, indulging in stop and start exercise can benefit those suffering from early ejaculation and avoiding alcohol may help in dealing with erectile dysfunction. 


BODY IMAGE 


With issues like penis size being hyped to a great extent, it is bound to create self-esteem issues among men who feel they aren’t ‘well endowed’ even if that’s not the case. Many a times, the partner’s body (small breasts, being too thin or too fat) may be the issue, courtesy the hoard of hourglass figures that one sees all around on billboards and magazines. And when self-image doesn’t meet up to your own expectations, it could lead to loss of desire. 


IT’S NOT ABOUT SEX 


Many a times, other sexual habits of men can affect their desire for intercourse. Not because they have any ill effects on one’s sex life, but because over-addiction to pornography, leading to sexual activities could reduce one’s preference for regular intercourse. When stimulation modes differ in a way that’s not possible during normal intercourse, it leads to reduced desire for sex with one’s partner.

Zodiac Fun

Aries

 (March 21 - April 19)

Deny everything.

Taurus

 (April 20 - May 20)

In an unfortunate turn of events, someone sitting across from you will have a peculiar variant of a bad hair day...a bad nosehair day.

Gemini

 (May 21 - June 20)

Today you will receive a gift horse. Unfortunately, it will have a really horrendous case of gingivitis.

Cancer

 (June 21 - July 22)

You are sad about an upcoming event, but can do nothing about it. Try knitting -- people say it's wonderfully relaxing.

Leo

 (July 23 - August 22)

Beware the Ides of March. Also, if you have a friend named "Brutus", it might behoove you to be a trifle more selective...

Virgo

 (August 23 - September 22)

Try being entirely honest for a week. That's a fine way to develop a clear conscience. Personally, I prefer my method, though -- a poor memory.

Libra

 (September 23 - October 22)

Someone will ask you for your advice. Don't give it! Or if they insist, simply shake your head solemnly, and mutter "Much bad juju", and refuse to clarify. They only want a scapegoat.

Scorpio

 (October 23 - November 21)

Try to think of life as a game, today. For fun, make up new rules.

Sagittarius

 (November 22 - December 21)

Despite your best efforts, you will be unable to get your book published. But all you really need to do is change the title! "A Comparative Study of Invertibrate Parasites" is not likely to be published. But "A Bucket Full Of Leeches"? Now that's another story.

Capricorn

 (December 22 - January 20)

It will turn out that someone you spend a great deal of time with is actually one of the last remaining Sinanthropus (Peking man), rather than an actual Cro-Magnon. This will explain things you'd been wondering about.

Aquarius

 (January 21 - February 18)

You will invent a cool machine that will automatically make over 800 different varieties of coffee drinks. Unfortunately, everyone will go back to drinking just plain coffee.

Pisces

 (February 19 - March 20)

Something will start to bother you, and you will eventually have to ask someone to explain it. The thing is, some birds have very acute hearing - so WHERE ARE THEIR EARS??

Indrie Matrie: Poem : Strong Woman

Indrie Matrie: Poem : Strong Woman:  A Strong Woman is one who feels deeply  and loves fiercely  Her tears flow  just as abundantly  as her laughter  ...

Poem : Strong Woman

 A Strong Woman

is one who feels deeply 

and loves fiercely 

Her tears flow 

just as abundantly 

as her laughter 

A Strong Woman 

is both soft and powerful 

She is both 

practical and spiritual

 

A Strong Woman

in her essence 

is a gift to all the world 

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The After Effects of First Love

First love can be joyful, passionate and intense, but if you’re looking for happiness in later life, it’s best to avoid it altogether, says a new research. In a book related to the subject, a collection of new research papers by Britain’s leading sociologists, edited by Dr Malcolm Brynin, principal research officer at the Institute for Social and Economic Research at the University of Essex, the claims have been made. 

According to Brynin, the euphoria of puppy love can damage future relationships, reports a daily. “Remarkably, it seems that the secret to longterm happiness in a relationship is to skip a first relationship,” said Brynin. “In an ideal world, you would wake up already in your second relationship,” the expert said. 

While searching for the ingredients of successful long-term partnerships, Brynin found that intense first loves could set unrealistic benchmarks, against which we judge future relationships. “If you had a very passionate first relationship and allow that feeling to become your benchmark for a relationship dynamic, then it becomes inevitable that future, more adult partnerships will seem boring and a disappointment,” he said. 

Adults in successful long-term partnerships are those who have taken a calm, pragmatic view of what they need from a relationship, Brynin found. “The problems start if you try not only to get everything you need for an adult relationship, but also strive for the heights of excitement and intensity you had in your first experience of love. The solution is clear: if you can protect yourself from intense passion in your first relationship, you will be happier in your later relationships,” he said. 

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